Part two: Every mystery should be solved, right?
June 12, 2025 - at the office
7am
I am grateful for this work distraction. I will just keep my eye on the objective of getting this release sorted. There is no time or space for any of this right now.
Besides, I am 48 years old. I have gone my whole life not knowing. Do I need to know now?
Have I ever known myself? Why would I need to now.
Maybe it won't be good to know and I should leave it as it is. I probably the product of a one-night stand. I wonder how many of us are.
Does this explain why I have always felt something was off. Like I just didn't fit?
"MARGARET! FOCUS!" Spreadsheets to create, tickets to review, mitigation to think about.
I don't need to know. What will this do to my Mom? I can't hurt my Mom.
JB Fletcher taught me that all mysteries deserve a solving. How could I let her down?
10:00am
I open the messaging function in Ancestry and write to the person managing the gbenjamin1956 account.
Several hours later...
[Most of the hours I was very busy at work and thankfully quite distracted.]
We exchanged a few messages with some details I won't provide here and then...
Who is gbenjamin1956 - the blurred next few days
Note: Look, I am skipping a lot in this section because it was A LOT to take in.
- Basically, my boss, my wife, my BFF Courtney they all were scouring the internets trying to learn who is gbenjamin1956.
- I was working my brain at work. And my brain was spinning with all these theories of what and why and how.
- I learned from Michelle (who I was messaging) that gbenjamin is Gary Benjamin.
- But actually Courtney found him first in a 1978 Ilio but we weren't 100%, like 95% it was him.
- My boss found him on Facebook.
- Anne found him on Linkedin.
- Michelle and I moved our conversation to email.
- I sent her pictures of my mom and I.
- She sent me pictures.
- What if he isn't smart? I can't deal with not smart. What if he doesn't want to know me? I mean who would blame him.
- And she sent me...
A chat? Like on the phone? On Father's Day?